How do you manage a detour?

How do you manage a detour?

Detours.  Back in the day, I used a map (and a magnifying glass, if truth be told) to plan my route.  When Mapquest came on the scene, it was a treat to ditch the map and magnifying glass in favor of a nicely printed list of turn by turn directions to get me where I wanted to go. And now, I simply use the map application on my phone and a lovely voice guides me to my desired destination.  I like having a detailed plan to get me where I am going ~ it makes me feel confident and in control. Life is the same way. Don’t you feel in charge when you have a plan for your future? A detailed outline of the things you want to be, do and have?

Funny thing about road trips…and life…is that sometimes you are faced with an unexpected detour.  We begin with good intentions, determination and a plan but sometimes somewhere along the way we are faced with a road block.  Maybe we didn’t finish that project on time because we underestimated the time it would take to complete. Maybe we had to order pizza because our kids’ needs interfered with making dinner as planned.

Sometimes the detours are more serious. One day you wake up and the one you love tells you they aren’t sure they love you. Perhaps the job you head to in the morning doesn’t exist by noon.  Or the blinding headache you had the night before turns out to be something more serious than just a headache. That is what happened to a sweet woman I know.

I’m sure her new year started out similar to the rest of us ~ celebrations, plans to grow her business, thoughts of making new memories with her husband and children. Her journey into 2013 barely got started when she hit the detour. A tumor. A biopsy. A course of treatment still to be determined.  As I read her Caring Bridge journal entries updating friends and family on her condition, I am in awe and inspired by the grace and courage she has in the face of this detour.

The road ahead is unfamiliar, a sharp turn off the original course and I am sure parts will be very scary. But I also have this strong sense that this brave woman will be a witness of faith even in the midst of her humanity. I believe that even though she is traveling without a map, Mapquest, or the soothing voice of her phone navigation application, she is trusting in the One who created the road and who travels with her every step of the way. And I firmly believe that He will use this detour for good, as only He can.

Many are praying for my friend, lifting her up to the great physician, asking and believing for complete healing and peace for her and her family.  And I know that in spite of this detour, this year will still hold many wonderful memories and blessings for her.

It’s only a matter of time before you and I will encounter a detour, a road block, a change in direction from our own charted course.  But, more than likely, our detours won’t take us off course in a way that drastically alters our lives. So how will we respond to a change of course? Will we go forward with courage? Will we trust that the detour will offer an opportunity to grow our character in good ways? Will we choose an attitude of flexibility, grace and maybe even adventure, trusting the mapmaker to get us back on track, His track?  “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understandings, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6) One of my favorite verses ~ one I hope you will think of the next time you encounter a detour in your life.

Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths.  Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Psalm 25:4-5


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2 Responses to Detours

  1. Sharon says:

    As you well know, I live a lot of my life in fear of those detours. I am terrified when I can’t negotiate my way. Complete trust in the Mapmaker is my life-long quest. He is pruning away my reliance on people and things other than Him. He is winnowing me down to JUST HIM.

    G od
    P lans
    S haron

    Always a good reminder. And, I love that you mentioned my life verses – Proverbs 3:5-6. That’s my challenge…trust Him in ALL my ways.


  2. Love your post- still praying for SM, too.
    Yes, when a change happens, it is easy to forget that God has it all planned out! I just need to remember- He knows what He is doing!!!
    Love you-

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